Please refresh the page and retry. I 'm can't orgasm when having sex with my partner and it can make having sex unsatisfying and like a chore. He is always able to climax and this is making us both unhappy. What can we do to change things? The first thing to note is that you're not alone. The US academics also found that heterosexual men overestimate how often their partner reaches climax. H owever, the research paper makes no such claim, and one of the things that causes the most damage to our sexual lives is the idea there are guaranteed sexual techniques available that universally work for all of us.
The good news is most of the things you can do to increase your chances of orgasm are already well known. T his research asked about recent sexual experiences, relationship quality, and ways people attempted to enhance or increase sexual pleasure. If these are currently missing within your relationship, then you may want to think about initiating or increasing them.
Y ou can then start exploring together things that you both like and that help set the mood for you. Including where you do it, what you wear, how you talk about sex or plan for it. How do these help or hinder your sexual life? But may have a big impact on their ability to experience pleasure and orgasm. A re any of the following a factor in your life?
Not all of the above are easy or quick to fix, and some require additional assistance from your doctor, therapist or support group. However, if any of these are a factor in your life they may explain why orgasms are difficult for you. Some you may be able to change, others you may be able to adapt your sex life to accommodate. A key error made in much sex science and self-help is the assumption that "great" or "healthy" sex is defined by energetic, novel, technique-centred, frequent sex in a variety of positions that always ends in orgasm.
T oo often the subtext of sex research and subsequent press coverage is to imply that straight women orgasm less often because they are "complicated", "difficult", "inadequate" or "dysfunctional". But it does give you the chance to enjoy and enhance all aspects of your relationship. Petra Boynton is a social psychologist and sex researcher working in International Health Care and studying sex and relationships.
